Looking For Kitty (2004)

This 90 minute comedy-drama movie has a lot of content.  Directed by Edward Burns, where he plays a private investigator, helping a baseball coach to find his wife who ran away with a musician, this movie is about how sometimes close people actions catch us by surprise…and how difficult [and impossible?] it is to know somebody.

The baseball coach goes to New York to find his wife who abandoned him without any explanation, hoping to make it up with her and tell her how he still loves her….and mainly…to understand what she did.

During the investigation he and the detective get to know each other better and he finds out there’s no possible explanation that can fill what he needs. And understands that her actions mean she doesn’t care at all, which was what he wanted most. He understands her actions mean it’s not possible anymore and finds out what he wants for his life and that it can’t be found on any explanation or somebody else.

Sometimes in life other people actions catch us by surprise and we get very disappointed. The sooner we can forget about the facts and circumstances, the hows and whys,  to see and accept what it means, the better. The answers are always in ourselves and not in anybody else’s reasons and explanations. And a spontaneously given explanation means  a lot more than a demanded one.

Love and Human Relations

There are things that I can’t prove or discuss with anybody but I believe in them completely. I don’t have any doubt, I don’t need any proof, I simply believe.

I don’t belong to any religion but I totally believe in God, in reincarnation and in karma.

I respect all the other points of views and have friends with many different beliefs, even atheists. So I never discuss these subjects.

I think everybody comes to our lives for a reason, a reason that affects both sides, and some superior forces control the circumstances where it happens. Everybody, friends, loved ones, family, enemies, everybody.

We all look for people we can identify ourselves with. People who can accept and understand us, even if they are very different from us. Friends are like that. Friends support, accept and understand us unconditionally. I think their main role and ours in their lives is giving support and advising each other.

With true friends, we can always act sincerely, without worrying about acceptance and understanding. In fact we usually share things only with those we believe in advance that will accept and understand us, no matter what. Somehow, it doesn’t help us growing much, because it can only make us stronger.

I think the only thing that can make us grow and evolve is Love.  Masculine-Feminine relationship [ I’m straight but I guess homosexual relationships have a masculine and a feminine side also].

It’s the only thing that can bring us the fullest happiness and also the deepest suffering. The only thing that can really show us how imperfect and fragile we are. Love shows us that human relations are not the same as business relations, where you can demand your rights, demand explanations, set rules, sue someone for acting wrong or lying to you.

In Love we can never be compensated for being hurt like in a legal process where the judge decides how much the charged side must pay to the damaged one. And also, nobody can really demand and guarantee that we are going to act the way they expect. No matter what was said before.

Everybody can hurt and get hurt in Love. Everybody, no matter how much a great person he/she is.  Love can only succeed if we can accept the other as someone imperfect and accept our own imperfection. And that there are no guarantees of happiness at all. Never ever.

The pain of loss is the same if the person has always been great with you or cheated on you. The pain of getting away from the loved one. The difference are other feelings that come at the same time, depending on the situation, making things confuse.

So, considering all of it, all I have to say for those who once came to my life is:

I love you.

Forgive me for anything I may have done.

Thank you.