Do we really have the need to share what is going on in our lives?

I guess the answer is yes, but not necessarily with our circle of friends or relatives.

Sometimes, especially in difficult times, it’s easier having random conversations with strangers than with friends we’ve known for years or relatives.

My father died, in very revolting circumstances. The only people I can talk about it, who really share the same feelings, are my sisters and my mom. Nobody else that I know. But I have occasionally shared it with strangers.

Last night I took a bus to the city I live in and from which I have been temporarily away.  I had to move to another seat, since the one beside me was occupied by a young mother with a toddler. I ended up seating beside an elderly lady, whose grandson died two years ago in a horrible car accident. We shared our pain, our memories. I had known about the accident that killed five students from the same university at the time. It caused great commotion in our city.  That was an absolute synchronicity.

I know it is natural of friends and relatives to ask about. But I am not willing to share with them. At all.




We all make mistakes. And we  can’t have full control of how what we say may harm someone else.

Good and bad people make mistakes. The difference is that good people don’t plan to harm anyone and usually care about the consequences of their acts.

What harms most is not the act itself but the lack of consideration.

Sometimes is not possible to repair but real good people demonstrate some concern about that or try to offer some compensation.

Even the people that are close to us,  like friends and family,  can harm us in different forms. We overcome much easier when we know that those people care about what they do and come to us to fix the situation, one way or another.

But in some cases you may have someone in great consideration and find out the worst way that the person doesn’t really consider you as you might have thought.  And then, at least for me, it’s not possible to repair anything. For me that person becomes a turned page in the book of life. Forever.

I have a friend who says “The worst you can give to someone who has harmed you in the past is indifference”.

I am not so sure about that, specially because if someone didn’t care enough of you to harm you in the past, that person will probably not care at all about your feelings or indifference now.

I prefer looking at that in the reverse way.

For me, the best thing I can feel in such cases is indifference.

Not indifference as something to give back as a revenge, but genuine and spontaneous indifference that comes when  by any chance you get in touch with that person again. The one that comes to you as natural as breathing.

That is the real sign of overcoming the situation. When you feel that for having any friendly contact with that person you would have to fake it really hard if necessary.

The real indifference is the absence of any feeling or emotional attachment to that person or the situation in the past.

I think it’s a great thing because it means that any negative feelings like anger or disappointment have gone. It’s not a negative or positive feeling for me, but neutral.

That is the big deal for me and not how or if the other person will one day ever notice my indifference.

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Thoughts and Emotions

Is it our thoughts that control our emotions or our emotions that control our thoughts?

I think the answer is : if we don’t have control over our thoughts and their power, then our emotions can take control over ourselves.

It’s not an easy thing though.

We usually allow positive emotions and thoughts be dependent on external factors. And negative emotions can come even without external factors.

Good emotions that depend only on external factors don’t last. And negative emotions can produce bad thoughts and even worse emotions. I’m pretty sure not only external factors cause diseases but negative emotions are an open door for them too.

Why is it so difficult to make a positive emotion last and so difficult to get rid of the negative ones?

The key is learning how to reject every negative emotions when they come.  We’re humans, they come.

Rejecting negative emotions  bring good thoughts and positive emotions that are not dependent on external factors and can last much longer.

It improves with practice and the benefit comes to ourselves and the ones who we share life with. It develops tolerance and increases our capacity to deal with difficulties in a more positive way.

“Mens sana in corpore sano”.