We all make mistakes. And we can’t have full control of how what we say may harm someone else.
Good and bad people make mistakes. The difference is that good people don’t plan to harm anyone and usually care about the consequences of their acts.
What harms most is not the act itself but the lack of consideration.
Sometimes is not possible to repair but real good people demonstrate some concern about that or try to offer some compensation.
Even the people that are close to us, like friends and family, can harm us in different forms. We overcome much easier when we know that those people care about what they do and come to us to fix the situation, one way or another.
But in some cases you may have someone in great consideration and find out the worst way that the person doesn’t really consider you as you might have thought. And then, at least for me, it’s not possible to repair anything. For me that person becomes a turned page in the book of life. Forever.
I have a friend who says “The worst you can give to someone who has harmed you in the past is indifference”.
I am not so sure about that, specially because if someone didn’t care enough of you to harm you in the past, that person will probably not care at all about your feelings or indifference now.
I prefer looking at that in the reverse way.
For me, the best thing I can feel in such cases is indifference.
Not indifference as something to give back as a revenge, but genuine and spontaneous indifference that comes when by any chance you get in touch with that person again. The one that comes to you as natural as breathing.
That is the real sign of overcoming the situation. When you feel that for having any friendly contact with that person you would have to fake it really hard if necessary.
The real indifference is the absence of any feeling or emotional attachment to that person or the situation in the past.
I think it’s a great thing because it means that any negative feelings like anger or disappointment have gone. It’s not a negative or positive feeling for me, but neutral.
That is the big deal for me and not how or if the other person will one day ever notice my indifference.