I think we all have this empty place inside that need and can only be filled with love.
That need that is more evident in the moments of solitude.
Some can deal better with it, not denying, but recognizing its existence and facing it, continuing on their way, doing their things, until the love they need can be found.
Others just can’t face it and can’t stay alone and they start relationships with anyone that appears in their lives, so they don’t have to deal with that need or think and learn about it and themselves.
So love is a positive feeling that comes from this need, which is somehow negative in itself.
The ones who can deal and face that need, spending some time alone learning about themselves, usually become more prepared to be in a love relationship. They search for that love that comes with affinity and erotism.
They face loneliness and need, refusing to be in an empty relationship.
It’s difficult to find someone who you have affinity with and also feel sexually attracted for. But it’s possible. And I think that’s the best to search for. That’s the big deal. And if there is something that big, I want it for me too, it’s natural.
Friendship is often treated as a minor relationship and Love as the big thing to be found.
But friendship is also great, something spontaneous and based exclusively in affinity. It doesn’t come from that place inside we need to fill.
It can be wonderful but it doesn’t change and has nothing to do with that need.
When we have affinity and friendship with someone we can spend hours talking silly and funny things with that person and think it’s wonderful. It would be torture beside someone else without any affinity. Also friendship is not exclusive as love. We can have more than one friend, though it’s not easy finding true friendship nowadays.
With all these things I believe, I keep taking my steps in life, knowing that everything that happens is for the best, even when they don’t feel so.