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Sex & The City

Last night I watched an episode of Sex & The City that I hadn’t seen, can’t tell from what season it was.

I love it, so any episode is fine for me.

Carrie went out with her boyfriend, Berger, and the girls. Miranda had a date a few days before and the girls asked her about it. She answered she was waiting the guy to call which hadn’t happened yet. Then girls started each one giving a possible excuse for that: “He might be busy.”, “He might be waiting a few days not to show interest.” and things like that.

Then Berger simply said: “He is not that much into you.”, which cause some embarrassment among the other girls, not Miranda.

He continued: “Seriously. You’ll probably get an uncomfortable e-mail with a stupid excuse in a few days.”

The girls tried to make other excuses but Miranda took it very well. She said: “He is not into me. And it’s fine!”

And she thanked Berger for saving her time wondering about it.

Then 2 days later she got the e-mail and just smiled.

Oh, my God, it’s just a TV show, but it’s so so true. I thank Berger too 🙂 .

One reason

Give me one reason to stay here – and Ill turn right back around
Give me one reason to stay here – and Ill turn right back around
Because I dont want leave you lonely
But you got to make me change my mind

Baby I got your number and I know that you got mine
But you know that I called you, I called too many times
You can call me baby, you can call me anytime
But you got to call me

Give me one reason to stay here – and Ill turn right back around
Give me one reason to stay here – and Ill turn right back around
Because I dont want leave you lonely
But you got to make me change my mind

I dont want no one to squeeze me – they might take away my life
I dont want no one to squeeze me – they might take away my life
I just want someone to hold me and rock me through the night

This youthful heart can love you and give you what you need
This youthful heart can love you and give you what you need
But Im too old to go chasing you around
Wasting my precious energy

Give me one reason to stay here – and Ill turn right back around
Give me one reason to stay here – and Ill turn right back around
Because I dont want leave you lonely
But you got to make me change my mind

Baby just give me one reason – give me just one reason why
Baby just give me one reason – give me just one reason why I should stay
Because I told you that I loved you
And there aint no more to say

Directions

Have you ever felt like you’re taking the direction that reason indicates you but deep inside you would like to take a totally different one? Or when reason tells you to move away from something you don’t wanna leave?

That’s how I feel.

It happens when somebody comes and says: “Great, I’m glad for you!” and I answer that “Thanks” that can’t convince anyone and think “I wish I could feel glad about it too”.

There are things that can’t wait for a sign or a reason to be made. It will never come. You gotta be bold enough to try it.

Who’s ever sure of anything?

Hidden Persuasion

Nothing like a new day…

…plenty of work to be done, to go back and forget about what has never been close enough, the day that never comes and has always been too far, no matter how many days fall off the calendar.

The Part And The Whole

[No, this is not about the Uncertainty Principle of Heisenberg. I’m not qualified for that 🙂 ]

Today I had lunch with a friend at work and she, like me, hates being surrounded by a crowd all the time.

She is married and we have many common friends and we are very like minded in many ways.

Like me, she likes to keep her privacy protected and doesn’t feel comfortable to discuss personal matters easily. As we are best friends and very close, we can count on each other for that and usually do that during lunch time. But our common friends, including her husband, say we are kind of weird, that we run away from people. We laugh together a lot about it.

Most people do the opposite. They feel much better surrounded by many other people all the time or as long as they can.

It’s not that I don’t do that too. I do, in fact I’m very easy going and can start conversation with different kind of people. I just don’t avoid the lonely moments.

I was thinking about it. It’s a good escape indeed. Maybe many people avoid that unique sensation of being yourself for much long.

I think while we are involved in many activities and surrounded by other people we forget that sensation, we kind of mix with everything else around. The part becomes the whole.

Being alone inevitably takes to that sensation of being a unique part, the sensation that no one else in the world can have or share with you, the awareness of who you are.

True friendship and love are the closest one can get of sharing it with someone else.

Relief

Some things can only be done when the other side shows he wants you to do it, if the other side makes you feel sure that he thinks you deserve it and you should do something. Otherwise it could only cause disturbance.

But sometimes feelings get so intense that I almost believe I should do something about it to get some relief. Then reason soon comes to help and avoid me to be called crazy. I don’t know if it’s a disease, I don’t want to know what Freud or Jung said about it. I don’t want to let it go. I wish I could do something about it.

I’m not sure in those moments of intensity if any disturbance caused could really be worse than that. Then I run away of it the way I can. I go out for a walk, talk to friends, meditate [this I practice, no matter how peaceful or chaotic my life is], I care of my life, my work. It’s only a temporary escape though, no relief comes from it. I just try not to focus on it, which sometimes is inevitable.

Da Luv Thing and Shy People

I accidentally came to a site that contains advising for men about dating women.

I found this there:

“In some ways, women are a bit like Labradors: if you say the right things in an appropriate tone of voice, they’ll do what you want. Alternately, women also have the potential to be like caged lions, and if you piss them off and are dumb enough to stand around, they’ll rip your head off.”

Read more here.

I can’t disagree or agree with the statement above. It’s true sometimes. It reminds me of an english TV show where the instructor is a woman who teaches wives how to treat their husbands comparing them to dogs. First they train with the dogs and them start applying it at home with their husbands to improve communication in the relationship. It’s funny to see how it works. They have hidden cameras at the wives houses to show the evolution of each case. All the guys get very surprised when they get to know they were being treated like dogs [like a pet dog, of course].

For all the cases I found in the site for guys and also on the tv show [there’s been a time since I’ve seen it for the last time, it’s not in my cable pack now] the biggest problem is only one: COMMUNICATION.

Things said implicitly or through actions or signs can be misunderstood. I suggest keeping things simple, taking one step at a time, when you are really into the other side [oh, my God, who am I to say anything about it 🙂 ] .

I personally believe that if the guy never invites me for anything then he is not into me, even if his actions or signs show the opposite. Signs and actions can be so confusing specially if I’m into the guy also. I keep thinking: I’m seeing like this because that’s what I want or it’s really like this? Specially if the guy invites other girls out it gets more confusing.

I still think direct communication is the best action. Just invite for a cup of coffee and start talking. If talking goes okay something else may be suggested. That’s how I expect even the shyest guy to act: naturally and spontaneously like the man he is. What can be the risk of it?

And I have been very open to invitations lately and have got a few [none from the one I want though]. I haven’t gone much further than a cup of coffee, lunch or movies yet. It’s so good to have someone you can hang out with and talk about everything.

That’s me. I’d like to be like some female friends that I call “though skin”. They act so bold and so detached. They are not the fall-in-love type at all. But that’s not like I am. And I’m sure it would be disastrous if I tried :).

Tell me, babe

 So tell me babe
Tell me ‘bout it
Tell me how I feel
How you feel
And if the feeling’s real
Feeling’s real
Tell me what’s the deal , hey hey hey
Tell me ‘bout it
Tell you how I feel
How it feels
And if the feeling’s real
Feeling’s real


Let’s seal the deal
Hey Hey Hey

What you think about me and you being together
Could you brink to share my cold and stormy weather??
Have you got this under control
Show me you know about a woman’s soul

If you’re feeling like I do, won’t you come and do it to me

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